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ISBN 978-1-57344-295-4
5.5 x 8.5, 372 pages

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Opening Up

A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships—from partnered nonmonogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting, and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.

"This is the book you want to read if you’re looking for a voice that is balanced, sensitive and sensible when tackling the thorny question of sexual boundaries in love relationships. Opening Up is sure to open up your mind." —Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

"Taormino cuts through all the utopian theory and gets down to what people really need: the nuts and bolts of how open relationships work. I want to give Opening Up to everyone I know who asks, 'How do you do it?'" —Susie Bright

"A luscious smorgasbord of nonmonogamy as an opportunity for breaking free of the one-way model of sex and love. Taormino's discussion is remarkably nuanced and balanced—and encourages readers to proceed with their eyes wide open." —Jack Morin, PhD, author of The Erotic Mind

"Courageous, stunningly thorough and inspiring. If you need a pathfinding guide for evolving your relationships, this is it."  —Daphne Rose Kingma, author of The Future of Love

"This book is one of the best to come along in a long time!"  —Deborah Anapol, Ph.D., author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits

"Superbly informative, sympathetic and literate." —Dr. Gloria Brame, author of Different Loving

"Those put off by the book's premise shouldn't be: this is not so much an espousal of nonmonogamous relationships as it is a comprehensive guide to the phenomenon, offering numerous firsthand accounts from those involved in open relationships. With its modern twist on conventional relationships, her latest title would be best suited for contemporary nonfiction collections." —Library Journal

"If you are expecting a traditional how-to book by Taormino, you’re in for something new." —Sex Herald

TRISTAN TAORMINO is a columnist for the Village Voice, the editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series and author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Tristan Taormino's True Lust, and has been a popular speaker and teacher at polyamory conferences, workshops, and community groups for more than 15 years. She lives in Brooklyn, NY. Visit her at

Cleis Spotlight: Read an interview with Tristan Taormino.

Book Tour: Check out Tristan in person as she celebrates the launch of Opening Up.

Also by Tristan Taormino

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